Would You Rather: 100+ Hot & Dirty Questions for Adults 🔥

April 25, 2025

Alright, let's not kid ourselves. After the funny questions or the thought-provoking ones, sometimes you just want to move to a level that's a bit more... intimate. The "Would You Rather" game also works wonders (seriously!) for exploring desires, fantasies, and just spicing things up between consenting adults.

Clearly, this list is not one to pull out at the next family gathering or with that friend who blushes at everything. This is 100% adults only, perfect for a couple's night in to (re)discover each other's preferences, or with very (very) close friends you can talk about anything with, no holds barred. The idea is to have fun, be daring, and maybe learn some interesting things... 😉

The principle remains the same: two options, one mandatory choice. But here, the options are, let's say... more focused below the belt (or elsewhere!). Ready to play with fire?

Important: The foundation is respect and everyone's comfort. If a question makes someone uneasy, skip it without judgment. The goal is to have fun, not force anything!

Foreplay and Seduction Games

1. Would you rather have a long, sensual massage with warm oils or light caresses with a feather all over your body?
2. Would you rather hear sweet, romantic words during foreplay or dirtier, more direct talk?
3. Would you rather start with deep, tender kisses or soft bites on the neck?
4. Would you rather watch a slow, suggestive striptease or quickly and passionately undress each other?
5. Would you rather send/receive detailed sexts before meeting up or naughty pictures?
6. Would you rather seduce with an intense gaze or with whispers in the ear?
7. Would you rather play with ice cubes on the skin or warm candle wax (the special massage kind!)?
8. Would you rather blindfold your partner or be blindfolded?
9. Would you rather start the fun in the shower/bath or go straight to bed?
10. Would you rather take your time and make foreplay last an hour or more, or get to the main event faster?
11. Would you rather steal a passionate kiss in a public place (elevator, dark corner...) or have a planned, intense kiss in private?
12. Would you rather wear/see your partner wear sexy, delicate lingerie or nothing at all?
13. Would you rather guide your partner's hand on your body or let them explore freely?
14. Would you rather have an atmosphere with candles and soft music or dim lighting and just the sound of your breathing?
15. Would you rather play hard to get a little before giving in or jump at the chance as soon as the desire hits?

Places and Scenarios

16. Would you rather have sex in a unique spot in nature (deserted beach, forest...) or in a public place with a (calculated!) risk of being seen?
17. Would you rather have a steamy night in a luxury hotel room or a more "rustic" adventure in a tent under the stars?
18. Would you rather do it on a running washing machine or the kitchen table?
19. Would you rather try it in a car, like a makeshift drive-in, or in a fitting room?
20. Would you rather have a quick, intense escape during your lunch break or dedicate an entire night to pleasure?
21. Would you rather recreate a scene from an erotic movie or completely improvise your own scenario?
22. Would you rather do it in a different room of the house each time or have your favorite "love nest"?
23. Would you rather have a sexy boudoir photoshoot just for the two of you or watch a high-quality erotic film together?
24. Would you rather be surprised by the location your partner chooses or decide together on the spot for your next adventure?
25. Would you rather do it somewhere meaningful to your relationship (where you met, first kiss...) or somewhere totally unfamiliar and impersonal?
26. Would you rather have sound with your favorite playlist or silence to better hear moans and breathing?
27. Would you rather take advantage of a huge bathtub for water play or a spacious walk-in shower?
28. Would you rather have the comfort of a king-size bed or the excitement of a more "precarious" spot (sofa, rug...)?
29. Would you rather have a passionate one-night stand while traveling or a steady relationship with regular naughty rendezvous?
30. Would you rather do it with the curtains open (being reasonably sure you won't be seen!) or in total darkness?

Sensations and Practices

Now we're getting into touches, caresses, what makes you tick...

31. Would you rather have deep, wet kisses or lighter, teasing kisses all over the body?
32. Would you rather focus on one erogenous zone for a long time or flutter all over the body?
33. Would you rather use sex toys (vibrator, plug, handcuffs...) or only your hands, mouths, and bodies?
34. Would you rather dominate and take charge or let yourself be guided and be dominated? (Or switch?)
35. Would you rather give or receive oral pleasure?
36. Would you rather orgasm at the same time as your partner or watch them climax before/after you?
37. Would you rather have very gentle caresses or more intense sensations (light scratches, spanking...)?
38. Would you rather explore anal pleasure (giving or receiving) or stick to more conventional practices?
39. Would you rather experiment with temperatures (ice cubes, warm breath) or with textures (silk, oil, feather)?
40. Would you rather do it slowly and sensually or more quickly and animalistically?
41. Would you rather prefer positions that allow intense eye contact or those that favor deep sensations?
42. Would you rather have erotic massages that lead to sex or a relaxing massage after lovemaking?
43. Would you rather moan loudly or express your pleasure more quietly?
44. Would you rather try simple role-playing (doctor/nurse, teacher/student...) or stay yourselves?
45. Would you rather masturbate in front of your partner or watch them masturbate?
46. Would you rather deep, powerful penetration or gentler, surface-level movements?
47. Would you rather use flavored/warming lube or neutral lube?
48. Would you rather the excitement of novelty with a never-tried position or the comfort of a favorite position?
49. Would you rather focus solely on physical pleasure or include a strong emotional connection during sex?
50. Would you rather have a passionate embrace right after orgasm or need a little space?

Fantasies and Daring

How far would you go to spice things up? (Always with respect and consent, remember!)

51. Would you rather fulfill one of your deepest secret fantasies or help your partner fulfill theirs?
52. Would you rather try a threesome (or more) or maintain strict exclusivity?
53. Would you rather engage in light exhibitionism (showing off a little) or voyeurism (discreetly watching others)?
54. Would you rather incorporate light BDSM elements (soft restraints, blindfold) or explore more pronounced power dynamics?
55. Would you rather film your encounters (just for yourselves!) or take sexy photos during the act?
56. Would you rather try food play (melted chocolate, whipped cream...) on the body or keep food on the plate?
57. Would you rather talk dirty during sex or use more suggestive, figurative language?
58. Would you rather visit a sex shop together to choose accessories or order surprises online?
59. Would you rather try visiting a swingers' club (just to see?) or a private masked party?
60. Would you rather wear a sexy costume to surprise your partner or have them wear one for you?
61. Would you rather read erotic literature aloud together or watch an ethical, well-produced porn film?
62. Would you rather exchange full sensual massages, including intimate parts, or focus on less direct areas?
63. Would you rather try more elaborate role-playing with a script or improvise completely?
64. Would you rather introduce an element of controlled "risk" (fear of being caught, playing with fire...) or prefer total safety and comfort?
65. Would you rather explore less conventional erogenous zones (feet, ears, inner thighs...) or focus on the "classics"?
66. Would you rather have a sexual encounter where one partner is totally passive (like a "doll") or always have very active interaction from both sides?
67. Would you rather completely let go and lose control or maintain a certain level of control over the situation?
68. Would you rather whisper your wildest desires or write them down for the other person to read?
69. Would you rather incorporate mirrors into your play to watch yourselves or prefer not to see your reflection?
70. Would you rather have an intense, almost "forbidden" quickie (in a bar restroom, etc.) or a planned night dedicated to exploring fantasies?

Communication and Desires

Because sex is also in the mind and in the words!

71. Would you rather clearly say what you like during sex ("faster," "right there," "keep going...") or guide the other person with moans and body movements?
72. Would you rather have a debrief after sex about what you liked/disliked or just let things happen without analysis?
73. Would you rather explicitly ask for permission before trying something new or go for it while observing the other's reactions? (Be careful reading signals!)
74. Would you rather state your boundaries clearly beforehand or as you go if something bothers you?
75. Would you rather know exactly what your partner is thinking during sex or maintain an element of mystery and interpretation?
76. Would you rather initiate sex most of the time or prefer the other person make the first move?
77. Would you rather talk about your past experiences with your current partner or keep that to yourself?
78. Would you rather discover your partner's desires by asking direct questions or by interpreting subtle hints?
79. Would you rather receive compliments on your "performance" or on your sensuality/emotional connection?
80. Would you rather know if your partner fantasizes about other people or prefer to ignore it?
81. Would you rather establish a "safe word" for more daring play or rely on non-verbal communication to stop?
82. Would you rather plan sexual "dates" to keep the flame alive or let spontaneity do its thing?
83. Would you rather your partner tell you honestly if they didn't orgasm or have them fake it to spare your feelings?
84. Would you rather watch tutorials or read articles about sex to improve your intimate life or learn solely through experience?
85. Would you rather be able to say "no" at any time without needing to justify yourself or feel obligated to explain why?
86. Would you rather your partner ask you what you feel like tonight or have them take the initiative hoping they guess right?
87. Would you rather have deep conversations about your intimacy outside the bedroom or bring up these topics just before/after sex?
88. Would you rather laugh if something unexpected or "messed up" happens during sex or maintain absolute seriousness?
89. Would you rather know that your partner masturbates thinking about you or prefer not to know?
90. Would you rather use apps or couples' games to spice up your sex life or come up with your own ideas?
91. Would you rather your partner say "I love you" during sex or right after?
92. Would you rather be complimented on a specific part of your body or on your overall sexual energy?
93. Would you rather try new things even if they don't always work out or stay in a comfort zone where pleasure is guaranteed?
94. Would you rather know your partner is fully satisfied or that you yourself experienced great pleasure? (Ideally both, but if you had to choose!)
95. Would you rather hold intense eye contact during sex or keep your eyes closed to focus on sensations?
96. Would you rather the excitement of an intense purely sexual relationship or a relationship where sex is good but not the central element?
97. Would you rather have sex in the morning upon waking up or late at night before sleeping?
98. Would you rather foreplay last longer than intercourse itself or the other way around?
99. Would you rather have a powerful, quick orgasm or a longer, more diffuse one?
100. Would you rather have complete silence after sex to savor the moment or talk and debrief tenderly?
101. Would you rather know your partner still has unfulfilled desires or believe you satisfy all their expectations?

So, did things heat up a bit?

These adult Would You Rather questions are meant to open doors, start discussions (sometimes daring ones!), and above all, have fun exploring intimacy. It's a playful way to communicate about topics that can sometimes be tricky. Just remember, the key is mutual respect, listening, and consent.

If you enjoyed these questions but are also looking for other styles to vary the mood – like downright funny questions, more juicy dilemmas that make you think, couple-focused versions centered on the overall relationship, or even lists for teens and kids – we've got it all covered!

Our complete guide to "Would You Rather" questions gathers hundreds of questions for all tastes and situations.

Now, it's your turn to play... and let the temperature rise! 😉🔥