She's a 10 But: 169 Questions to Test Your Relationship

January 22, 2025 Couple playing the She's a 10 but game

Let's be real, being in a relationship is kinda like a game of Tetris: sometimes it fits perfectly, and sometimes you wonder how you even got to this point. You know what? The "She's a 10 but" (or "He's a 10 but") game for couples is the ultimate test. It's time to find out if you're ready to accept that your partner is a 10, but they have habits that are... let's say, unique.

Honestly, it's way more effective than a long, serious discussion for flushing out everyone's "red flags" or "beige flags." Let me explain: we're testing boundaries, compromises, and most importantly, seeing if you share the same sense of humor. Here's the deal: get ready, because this might sting a little.

Daily Life and Little Quirks

This is where it all goes down. 24 hours in a day feels pretty long when you're not on the same wavelength.

It's a 10 but they want to sleep with the window open in the middle of winter
It's an 8 but they have coffee breath 24/7
It's a 4 but they make you breakfast in bed every Sunday
It's a 10 but they put their cold feet on you under the duvet
It's a 7 but they fold your clothes exactly how you like them
It's a 10 but they never finish their cups of tea and leave them everywhere
It's a 9 but they snore like a tractor as soon as they fall asleep
It's a 2 but they are a multimillionaire and want to take you to live in Tahiti
It's a 10 but they want to choose every movie you watch
It's a 5 but they give you foot massages every night in front of the TV
It's a 10 but they leave water everywhere in the bathroom after their shower
It's an 8 but they know all your favorite restaurant orders by heart
It's a 10 but they want you to do everything together, even grocery shopping
It's a 6 but they always leave you the last slice of pizza
It's a 10 but they talk to their cat like it's a human
It's a 3 but they have an amazing loft and ask you to move in rent-free
It's a 10 but they can't cook pasta without ruining it
It's a 7 but they always defend you in front of their family, even when you're wrong
It's a 10 but they want you to wear matching pajamas
It's a 5 but they have infinite patience with your meltdowns
It's a 10 but they systematically forget to buy toilet paper
It's an 8 but they send you memes that actually make you laugh all day
It's a 10 but they want to sleep with their dog in the middle of the bed
It's a 4 but they have connections that can get you into any private club
It's a 10 but they take three hours to get ready just to go buy bread
It's a 9 but they refuse to eat green vegetables
It's a 10 but they sing totally off-key but with way too much passion
It's a 2 but they own a private jet and love spontaneous trips
It's a 10 but they want you to hold their hand even while sleeping
It's a 7 but they remember every little detail you tell them
It's a 10 but they constantly judge your driving
It's a 5 but they fix everything in the house without you asking
It's a 10 but they never want to go out on weekends
It's an 8 but they give you sincere compliments ten times a day
It's a 10 but they are a neat freak and put your stuff away without warning
It's a 3 but they cook like a Michelin-star chef every night
It's a 10 but they always have to have the last word in an argument
It's a 6 but they get along amazingly well with your parents
It's a 10 but they can't stand you watching a show without them
It's a 5 but they have a laugh that instantly makes you smile

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The Future and Big Plans

This is where it gets serious. We're talking life vision, projects, and what keeps people together (or not) in the long run.

It's a 10 but they want to live in the countryside with 12 goats
It's an 8 but they want to get married in a month
It's a 10 but they absolutely do not want children
It's a 4 but they are ready to move anywhere for your career
It's a 10 but they want you to live in the same building as their parents
It's a 7 but they want to travel the world in a van with you
It's a 10 but they want a joint bank account from the first month
It's a 9 but they want to retire at 40 and live off the grid
It's a 10 but they are convinced you two are going to become famous together
It's a 3 but they have already planned your entire financial future so you're set
It's a 10 but they want your kids to be named after their grandparents (who have very ugly names)
It's an 8 but they want you to do couples therapy "just in case"
It's a 10 but they want you to spend every Christmas with their family
It's a 5 but they support you unconditionally in your craziest projects
It's a 10 but they refuse to commit to anything more than six months out
It's a 6 but they want to build their own house with their hands for you
It's a 10 but they want you to adopt an alligator
It's a 9 but they want you to do a one-month digital detox every year
It's a 10 but they are super ambitious and only think about work
It's a 2 but they are ready to give you the life of your dreams without asking for anything in return

Here's the thing: in this day and age, relationships happen on screens too. And that's often where the drama starts.

It's a 10 but they never want to post you on Instagram
It's an 8 but they want your passwords "because of trust"
It's a 10 but they like all their exes' photos
It's a 4 but they always take photos of you from your best angle
It's a 10 but they post stories of you while you're sleeping
It's a 7 but they are very close friends with your friends (sometimes too close)
It's a 10 but they want you to make couple TikToks
It's a 9 but they take ages to reply to your texts but are always on their phone
It's a 10 but they comment "my love" on absolutely every post
It's a 5 but they block people who are rude to you on social media
It's a 10 but they want you to change your profile picture to a photo of the two of you
It's an 8 but they have no social media and live in the real world
It's a 10 but they monitor who follows you on Instagram
It's a 6 but they help you write your important emails
It's a 10 but they tweet about your arguments to get opinions
It's a 4 but they know all the hacks to get VIP invites
It's a 10 but they want you to take a phone break when you are together
It's a 7 but they get along better with your mom than you do
It's a 10 but they are jealous of your best friend
It's a 5 but they always let you choose the plan for the evening

Character and Little Secrets

Let's scratch beneath the surface. This is where personalities really reveal themselves.

It's a 10 but they sulk as soon as you don't agree with them
It's an 8 but they cry during cat litter commercials
It's a 10 but they are convinced they are the reincarnation of a celebrity
It's a 3 but they have an intellect that fascinates you every day
It's a 10 but they can't keep a secret for more than two minutes
It's a 7 but they make your coffee exactly how you like it without asking
It's a 10 but they are super superstitious and refuse to walk under ladders
It's a 9 but they are terrified of butterflies
It's a 10 but they always tell the same joke that isn't funny
It's a 4 but they are incredibly calm when you're stressed
It's a 10 but they want you to tell them about your day minute by minute
It's a 6 but they have an incredible fashion sense
It's a 10 but they are incapable of choosing a restaurant
It's an 8 but they bring you flowers (or sushi) for no reason
It's a 10 but they are very (too) close to their mom
It's a 5 but they know exactly how to calm you down after a bad day
It's a 10 but they always want to be right even when they're wrong
It's a 7 but they have a voice that instantly soothes you
It's a 10 but they are allergic to your favorite pet
It's a 4 but they make you laugh out loud even in difficult moments
It's a 10 but they want you to work out together at 6 AM
It's an 8 but they are ultra-generous with everyone
It's a 10 but they have a consuming passion for model trains
It's a 6 but they are the best at organizing surprises
It's a 10 but they always forget your anniversary
It's a 5 but they look at you like you are the only person in the world
It's a 10 but they never want to admit they're tired
It's a 7 but they have a gift for improvised cooking
It's a 10 but they are addicted to video games and play all night
It's a 4 but they have a loyalty to you that will never waver
It's a 10 but they want you to call them by their full name when you're mad
It's a 9 but they hate chocolate
It's a 10 but they talk out loud when they're thinking
It's a 3 but they found you the best apartment of your life
It's a 10 but they don't know how to stop talking
It's an 8 but they are always down for a last-minute adventure
It's a 10 but they have a collection of weird rocks
It's a 6 but they always leave you the window seat
It's a 10 but they want you to debrief your feelings every night
It's a 5 but they have an incredible nose for good deals
It's a 10 but they move around constantly in their sleep
It's a 7 but they are super handy
It's a 10 but they want you to choose their clothes
It's a 4 but they have the patience of a saint with your flaws
It's a 10 but they cry watching cartoons
It's an 8 but they know all the home remedies to cure you
It's a 10 but they want you to go everywhere with them
It's a 6 but they are brutally honest in a necessary way
It's a 10 but they have a passion for astrology and judge your signs
It's a 5 but they make you the best coffee in the world
It's a 10 but they can't stand mess but never clean anything
It's a 7 but they have an infallible sense of direction
It's a 10 but they want you to take naps together every afternoon
It's a 4 but they are ready to do anything to make you laugh
It's a 10 but they have a crippling fear of commitment
It's an 8 but they are very thoughtful towards your friends
It's a 10 but they want you to read stories to them
It's a 6 but they know exactly what to say to motivate you
It's a 10 but they hate surprises
It's a 5 but they are absolutely discreet about your private life
It's a 10 but they want you to do puzzles together
It's a 7 but they have impressive general knowledge
It's a 10 but they don't want you to go out without them
It's a 4 but they make you feel safe no matter what happens
It's a 10 but they want you to make lists for everything
It's an 8 but they have a charm that works on everyone
It's a 10 but they are a shopaholic
It's a 6 but they always let you have the last word when it's important
It's a 10 but they want you to live in a lighthouse
It's a 5 but they have an elephant's memory for your important dates
It's a 10 but they don't want to lend their stuff
It's a 7 but they have a talent for finding gems at flea markets
It's a 10 but they want you to do yoga together
It's a 4 but they are capable of listening to you for hours
It's a 10 but they want you to do everything in writing
It's an 8 but they have an overflowing natural kindness
It's a 10 but they are a fan of reality TV
It's a 6 but they are very protective without being suffocating
It's a 10 but they want you to do gardening
It's a 5 but they have contagious positive energy
It's a 10 but they are super shy in public
It's a 7 but they have a gift for photography
It's a 10 but they want you to meditate
It's a 4 but they always bring you snacks
It's a 10 but they want you to choose their perfume/cologne
It's an 8 but they have a great dry sense of humor
It's a 10 but they hate the sound of chewing
It's a 6 but they are always there when you need them
It's a 10 but they want you to write a book together

Do we Validate or Swipe?

So, after these 169 questions, where do you stand? Honestly, it's not easy to answer everything without hesitation. But that's the beauty of relationships, right? You accept the little "buts" because the base score is too high to pass up.

If you loved this moment of truth and want to explore other categories for your parties (like funnier stuff, juicier stuff, or even totally hard mode), go check out our article on the 360 questions for the She's a 10 but game. It's the bible for never having an awkward silence at a party again.

So, what's the verdict? Does a 10 who snores stay a 10 or drop straight to a 4? You be the judge!